Comments for Texas Blue Lime Productions http://texasbluelime.com/wp Luzas. Goings on. Stuff. Life. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 07:40:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on The Parent-to-Childfree Spectrum by Chris http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/22/the-parent-to-childfree-spectrum/comment-page-1/#comment-51174 Chris Fri, 03 Feb 2012 07:40:44 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2620#comment-51174 Speaking of people not realizing children are a choice, I assumed my wife would want kids ater we got married—so much so that I never even thought to bring it up before we got married to make sure we were on the same page. I love kids. Turns out she only loves other peoples' kids, and only the good ones at that. I discovered how much she didn't want kids when she was late one month a few months after we got married and she cried like someone had killed our puppy. We finally talked about having kids after that incident (false alarm), and it was only then that she told me she never wanted to have kids. As the years have gone by, I've come to appreciate the pros of being "Childless" after unknowingly marrying a girl who's "Childfree Since Birth", but it was certainly a surprise to discover that not all girls who get married actually want to have kids. Speaking of people not realizing children are a choice, I assumed my wife would want kids ater we got married—so much so that I never even thought to bring it up before we got married to make sure we were on the same page.

I love kids. Turns out she only loves other peoples’ kids, and only the good ones at that. I discovered how much she didn’t want kids when she was late one month a few months after we got married and she cried like someone had killed our puppy. We finally talked about having kids after that incident (false alarm), and it was only then that she told me she never wanted to have kids.

As the years have gone by, I’ve come to appreciate the pros of being “Childless” after unknowingly marrying a girl who’s “Childfree Since Birth”, but it was certainly a surprise to discover that not all girls who get married actually want to have kids.

]]> Comment on The Parent-to-Childfree Spectrum by lori http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/22/the-parent-to-childfree-spectrum/comment-page-1/#comment-50758 lori Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:45:55 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2620#comment-50758 Thank you, Jessica. When we got married, we thought we wanted three kids. Then, I went through what I thought was a "funk" and didn't want any. I was sure I'd get over it, especially since it wasn't yet time in our grand plan. :) Then, months later, Emil woke up one morning and said, "I don't think I want to have kids." I asked him "now? or ever?". He said ever, I never came out of my "funk" and here we are. Of course, there is more to it than that--and many, many reasons to not--but we've never looked back. -Lori Thank you, Jessica.

When we got married, we thought we wanted three kids. Then, I went through what I thought was a “funk” and didn’t want any. I was sure I’d get over it, especially since it wasn’t yet time in our grand plan. :) Then, months later, Emil woke up one morning and said, “I don’t think I want to have kids.” I asked him “now? or ever?”. He said ever, I never came out of my “funk” and here we are.

Of course, there is more to it than that–and many, many reasons to not–but we’ve never looked back.

-Lori

]]> Comment on The Parent-to-Childfree Spectrum by Jessica http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/22/the-parent-to-childfree-spectrum/comment-page-1/#comment-50755 Jessica Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:13:57 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2620#comment-50755 I like the chart! I think it's a good generalization on the different categories. We definitely fall under the Childfree sub-category as well. When we first got married and were frequently asked, "when kids?", we would say things like, "not right now", "when the time is right we will know", but I think both of us had strong feelings of not having children that we didn't know about until 6+ years passed and more and more often we had conversations about parUNts and other families and our lack of desire to be any part of that. More than anything I wish people realized children are a choice, not a must-do milestone. Not everyone is cut out for it and many live unhappy lives (parents and children) because of that. I like the chart! I think it’s a good generalization on the different categories. We definitely fall under the Childfree sub-category as well. When we first got married and were frequently asked, “when kids?”, we would say things like, “not right now”, “when the time is right we will know”, but I think both of us had strong feelings of not having children that we didn’t know about until 6+ years passed and more and more often we had conversations about parUNts and other families and our lack of desire to be any part of that. More than anything I wish people realized children are a choice, not a must-do milestone. Not everyone is cut out for it and many live unhappy lives (parents and children) because of that.

]]> Comment on The Parent-to-Childfree Spectrum by Kelly http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/22/the-parent-to-childfree-spectrum/comment-page-1/#comment-50188 Kelly Wed, 28 Dec 2011 02:01:01 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2620#comment-50188 Other than that bit, the chart is right on the money, in my opinion. I've gone from childfree to militant childfree, and the pendulum is swinging back to a moderate position. I think it's interesting how few people (myself included) don't even think about the childfree alternative. It's almost as though we are socially brainwashed to think that having/adopting children is a milestone we MUST complete. Once I discovered the choice was out there, I thought, "Heck yeah! Other people like me exist!" Then, I ravenously read everything I could read on the topic. I quickly became a bit heated, because I discovered how many people just plain hate those of us who choose not to have/adopt children. Thanks for the graphic. It is a great "in a nutshell" view of the childed -> childfree spectrum. Other than that bit, the chart is right on the money, in my opinion. I’ve gone from childfree to militant childfree, and the pendulum is swinging back to a moderate position. I think it’s interesting how few people (myself included) don’t even think about the childfree alternative. It’s almost as though we are socially brainwashed to think that having/adopting children is a milestone we MUST complete.

Once I discovered the choice was out there, I thought, “Heck yeah! Other people like me exist!” Then, I ravenously read everything I could read on the topic. I quickly became a bit heated, because I discovered how many people just plain hate those of us who choose not to have/adopt children.

Thanks for the graphic. It is a great “in a nutshell” view of the childed -> childfree spectrum.

]]> Comment on The Parent-to-Childfree Spectrum by lori http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/22/the-parent-to-childfree-spectrum/comment-page-1/#comment-50186 lori Wed, 28 Dec 2011 00:27:21 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2620#comment-50186 Kelly, Thank you for your comment! I appreciate the feedback. While that hasn't been my experience with such parents, it is a group to note...and one I had not considered. This is, of course, a spectrum based on my opinion...and a first drraft at that. I'll certainly consider your perspective for the next revision. -Lori Kelly,

Thank you for your comment! I appreciate the feedback.

While that hasn’t been my experience with such parents, it is a group to note…and one I had not considered.

This is, of course, a spectrum based on my opinion…and a first drraft at that. I’ll certainly consider your perspective for the next revision.

-Lori

]]> Comment on The Parent-to-Childfree Spectrum by Kelly http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/22/the-parent-to-childfree-spectrum/comment-page-1/#comment-50184 Kelly Tue, 27 Dec 2011 23:12:20 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2620#comment-50184 The comment under the childless heading can be true in some cases, but in many cases, those who experience a "physical or financial windfall that allows them to have/adopt children..." do not become great parents. Many times, these are the people who see their children as such miracles that they deem everything - even the tantrums, bad manners, and horrible behavior - the kid does as "cute" or "precocious." The children of these parents oftentimes are the most horrendously spoiled of the whole lot. The comment under the childless heading can be true in some cases, but in many cases, those who experience a “physical or financial windfall that allows them to have/adopt children…” do not become great parents. Many times, these are the people who see their children as such miracles that they deem everything – even the tantrums, bad manners, and horrible behavior – the kid does as “cute” or “precocious.” The children of these parents oftentimes are the most horrendously spoiled of the whole lot.

]]> Comment on Open Letter to Alamo @Drafthouse and parUNts by lori http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/11/20/open-letter-to-alamo-drafthouse-and-parunts/comment-page-1/#comment-50146 lori Mon, 26 Dec 2011 17:49:32 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2505#comment-50146 Thank you, BinarySunset. We do love Alamo in part because of their rules about kids and the behavior of all guests. The general lack of discipline of children is a big reason why we don't want kids. Thank you for all you do in education to socially educate childre as well as academically educate them! Thank you, BinarySunset. We do love Alamo in part because of their rules about kids and the behavior of all guests. The general lack of discipline of children is a big reason why we don’t want kids. Thank you for all you do in education to socially educate childre as well as academically educate them!

]]> Comment on Open Letter to Alamo @Drafthouse and parUNts by Binarysunset http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/11/20/open-letter-to-alamo-drafthouse-and-parunts/comment-page-1/#comment-50145 Binarysunset Mon, 26 Dec 2011 17:24:32 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2505#comment-50145 Bravo, well written! I took love the drafthouse and you are waay nicer than I am. I would have raised the card and booted them out! there are a bunch of childfree educators like us for a reason. ;) Bravo, well written! I took love the drafthouse and you are waay nicer than I am. I would have raised the card and booted them out! there are a bunch of childfree educators like us for a reason. ;)

]]> Comment on Staples in my Head by lori http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/17/staples-in-my-head/comment-page-1/#comment-49883 lori Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:04:53 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2607#comment-49883 He used to live here in our building. When he was newly adopted, he'd cry. I left a note on our neighbors door saying I was home a lot of days if he ever needed me to give him a break. We became friends and I dog-sit (usually a quick lunch break) at times because my friend works a desk where the staff have to maintain coverage for long hours six days a week. When they moved, my friend made sure I got a key to the new place and I check on him a time or two a month. I don't know why he attacked me. There was a storm moving in (but no thunder), his break was a little shorter than usual, I moved to quickly, I did something that reminded him of his racing days, I smelled too much like the cats (though he's never given them a second glance...), etc. It could have been anything. He's having another date with the trainer to see if they can decipher it. After I get the staples out, we are going to meet again--me, friend, dog--and see how things go. I hope I don't have to give up my friendship with the dog over something I clearly did. I just wish I knew what set him off. :( Yes, staples in my head <em>is</em> funny....thus all the nicknames. I think Frankenstein has been my favorite. I wonder if I can go through an xray? He used to live here in our building. When he was newly adopted, he’d cry. I left a note on our neighbors door saying I was home a lot of days if he ever needed me to give him a break. We became friends and I dog-sit (usually a quick lunch break) at times because my friend works a desk where the staff have to maintain coverage for long hours six days a week. When they moved, my friend made sure I got a key to the new place and I check on him a time or two a month.

I don’t know why he attacked me. There was a storm moving in (but no thunder), his break was a little shorter than usual, I moved to quickly, I did something that reminded him of his racing days, I smelled too much like the cats (though he’s never given them a second glance…), etc. It could have been anything. He’s having another date with the trainer to see if they can decipher it.

After I get the staples out, we are going to meet again–me, friend, dog–and see how things go. I hope I don’t have to give up my friendship with the dog over something I clearly did. I just wish I knew what set him off. :(

Yes, staples in my head is funny….thus all the nicknames. I think Frankenstein has been my favorite. I wonder if I can go through an xray?

]]> Comment on Staples in my Head by Laine http://texasbluelime.com/wp/2011/12/17/staples-in-my-head/comment-page-1/#comment-49879 Laine Sat, 17 Dec 2011 18:22:58 +0000 http://texasbluelime.com/wp/?p=2607#comment-49879 I'm so glad you're okay! I don't understand the doggie BFF concept. Where does he live? Why did he attack you? There is something so funny about you having staples in your head. I'm so sorry. I don't know what's wrong with me. I must be emotionally stunted. Again, I'm glad you're okay. I’m so glad you’re okay!

I don’t understand the doggie BFF concept. Where does he live? Why did he attack you?

There is something so funny about you having staples in your head. I’m so sorry. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I must be emotionally stunted. Again, I’m glad you’re okay.

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